There's No One to Blame? Darn!!!

Hi,

This morning I was thinking about the ebb and flow of relationships, the ups and downs. How is it that one day he makes your heart flutter and another day the fact that he took out the garbage is the height of your appreciation? It's not that you've forgotten the flutters, but, today, not so much!

My answer: because life is complicated, painful and difficult...and, often, unpredictable. One morning I wake up knowing that absolutely everything is life is do-able, available and ready for me. Another morning, I really have to talk myself into remembering the spiritual principles that I believe, pick myself up and get back on track. Yes, it's not automatic. The joy of being human!

So, if that's what's going on in me, it is likely that the same thing is going on in my partner. Of course, he's a saint, but, it just might be that even saints have to remember their path consciously on some mornings! That's him, though, and I've got my own work to do, so....

Then, I have to remember that how I feel about me affects how I think and feel about him. One thing about accepting responsibility for being a grownup is clear: I am the author of my thoughts and feelings. Wouldn't it be lovely to accurately be able to say,

"You make me miserable, angry, unhappy, ...or pick one?" A

ctually, many people do say that, but it's just not true. You know that. You are the only one who responds to people, ideas, situations and conditions. No one creates that response for you. So, there is no one to blame.

So, the question of the day is:

"Am I taking responsibility for my thoughts, feelings and circumstances? Or, is there some little gremlin thought that I have that someone else has the power to push my buttons?"

If you've given the power, take it back.

Make it a great day.

Much love, great joy and many blessings,
Rhoberta